WHEN FAMILY/FRIENDS NEED TO GO!
Last year I decided that a family member
was just too toxic, honestly, this person is NOT a nice person, in my opinion - plus I
cut back on my interactions with few of my siblings and a few friends.
What brought me to this decision? I reflected on my growth in “life” the past
few years. The cruelty, mean spiritedness of my “family” was just downright
hateful. Oh yeah, my family LOVES to trash
certain members of the family, I believe it gives them pleasure! – HOW AWFUL!
Why did I allow myself to put up with their negative verbal assaults
and negative commentary of me for so long? Not sure? I finally confronted a family member; wow was she defensive. It felt so good to say, "you can't talk about me that way, you lied".
I feel no need to rehash their ugliness. I am in a good
place – forgiveness given; forgiveness does not mean you are open to continual
abuse and continual negative commentary spoken about you! This is important for those who are and
have been verbally abused to understand.
I am posting this because I feel that someone, somewhere
needs to know they are valued, important and worthy, sure we make mistakes –
but NO ONE needs to have their own siblings and friends continue to lie about us and
say negative things!
In my case I have always been an independent person, not agreeing with my family and what “they” say or “think” makes you an enemy! This behavior came from a place of their parental upbringing – I was fortunate in my early teens - I met a lovely Christian family that gave me hope, guidance and love - the cycle was broke with me.
Never underestimate the power of a kind word
